I've never heard the term "performative parenting". Maybe that's something new. My son and my step-children are all in their 30s and 40s now. With each passing Mother's Day, my expectations lessen. Any time I have with my busy kids with their own demanding lives is good, regardless of the calendar. If I remain truly in the moment, the day of the year doesn't really matter.
Thanks for sharing your perspective. Performative parenting is a relatively new term for a parent who has to demonstrate their “perfect parenting,” most notably on social media. For a second, I thought maybe I made it up, but it’s on the internet. 😂
I think you’ve got the right spirit. Less about the day and more about the intent—enjoying your time with your kids.
Yup! My lack of performative parenting is sometimes an issue with my daughter (she’d love if we went all out for the holidays—the more decor, the better) but holy heck I do not have time for that.
Oh, that's interesting. I think of performative parenting as those who are using social media as the vehicle for giving off the appearance that they're a good parent. Maybe I need to define that better.
It's sounds kind of sweet that your daughter wants you to pull out all the stops, but I could see how that could be a big time issue!
Yes - part of her interest is making videos about it! Performative tweening? I compromised by letting her make a video of us going to Goodwill and getting decorations vs a bunch of new stuff….that will eventually get trashed or end up at Goodwill.
Ok, well, that’s cool too. She’s got some creative talents! We’re big into thrifting over here too. It becomes a problem, though, because when the kids need something like shorts, instead of going to one store and buying a few pairs, they have to search out the perfect pair of jeans, which might not exist and might require multiple thrifting sessions, and then cut them off.
I've never heard the term "performative parenting". Maybe that's something new. My son and my step-children are all in their 30s and 40s now. With each passing Mother's Day, my expectations lessen. Any time I have with my busy kids with their own demanding lives is good, regardless of the calendar. If I remain truly in the moment, the day of the year doesn't really matter.
Thanks for sharing your perspective. Performative parenting is a relatively new term for a parent who has to demonstrate their “perfect parenting,” most notably on social media. For a second, I thought maybe I made it up, but it’s on the internet. 😂
I think you’ve got the right spirit. Less about the day and more about the intent—enjoying your time with your kids.
Yup! My lack of performative parenting is sometimes an issue with my daughter (she’d love if we went all out for the holidays—the more decor, the better) but holy heck I do not have time for that.
Oh, that's interesting. I think of performative parenting as those who are using social media as the vehicle for giving off the appearance that they're a good parent. Maybe I need to define that better.
It's sounds kind of sweet that your daughter wants you to pull out all the stops, but I could see how that could be a big time issue!
Yes - part of her interest is making videos about it! Performative tweening? I compromised by letting her make a video of us going to Goodwill and getting decorations vs a bunch of new stuff….that will eventually get trashed or end up at Goodwill.
Ok, well, that’s cool too. She’s got some creative talents! We’re big into thrifting over here too. It becomes a problem, though, because when the kids need something like shorts, instead of going to one store and buying a few pairs, they have to search out the perfect pair of jeans, which might not exist and might require multiple thrifting sessions, and then cut them off.
Yes, clothes are another matter for sure! and shoes.