"Every day, I was having interesting conversations with people who were paid to think about and react to what was happening in the world."
I love this outlook, and that's a big reason why I want to be here. I mean, not everyone's paid to think about the world, but many of us aspire to be paid to do that.
I feel viscerally the parting of the ways in the woods. I feel the plurality of paralysis from too many decisions all the time, and try to simplify things by limiting my focus (that's my 2023 goal in a nutshell). It's not an easy path, but conformity isn't really easy either, and it sucks a lot worse in other ways than carving your own path.
This is what success feels like: a big old mess! But it's better than the mess we'd have under different circumstances, and we should never forget that the grass is always greener. My "normie" friends have all sorts of problems I don't have, and plenty of the same types of problems.
The grass is greener, and appearances are often deceiving. The beauty of your goal is it helps eliminate some of the decision-making fatigue and keeps you focused on the things that matter most. The more clarity we have on why we do what we do really helps!
Often I think the only wrong decision is no decision. Clearly, this isn't true in all cases but, as you say Kristi, remaining stuck because we cannot choose is a drag. This is how autopilot sneaks up on us and we stay in the rut. I love that the Freedom card was meant for you in such a meaningful way and thank you so much for your reference to my post❤
Farrah's comment about women sticking together hits home for me. That is one of the things I've loved so much about the Substack community - the sense of community support (not only women .helping women but everyone).
One more thing I forgot to comment on...you said you have to adapt to your new way of living. I think we need to shout this from the rooftops! That sentence really got me because it's often the missing piece. We set ourselves up for change, we work to create the thing and yet we forget that our whole self is going to require an adaptation period to get used to it. Our nervous system, our lifestyle, our whole being.
When I chose to quit drinking I prepared myself for this adaptation which, I believe, helped me achieve success. However, in other seemingly less important endeavors, I often forget about the need to adapt which has an effect on the outcome.
"Every day, I was having interesting conversations with people who were paid to think about and react to what was happening in the world."
I love this outlook, and that's a big reason why I want to be here. I mean, not everyone's paid to think about the world, but many of us aspire to be paid to do that.
I feel viscerally the parting of the ways in the woods. I feel the plurality of paralysis from too many decisions all the time, and try to simplify things by limiting my focus (that's my 2023 goal in a nutshell). It's not an easy path, but conformity isn't really easy either, and it sucks a lot worse in other ways than carving your own path.
This is what success feels like: a big old mess! But it's better than the mess we'd have under different circumstances, and we should never forget that the grass is always greener. My "normie" friends have all sorts of problems I don't have, and plenty of the same types of problems.
The grass is greener, and appearances are often deceiving. The beauty of your goal is it helps eliminate some of the decision-making fatigue and keeps you focused on the things that matter most. The more clarity we have on why we do what we do really helps!
That's what it's all about. I appreciate you being here to bounce ideas off of! It's important for us to have ongoing dialogue like this.
Often I think the only wrong decision is no decision. Clearly, this isn't true in all cases but, as you say Kristi, remaining stuck because we cannot choose is a drag. This is how autopilot sneaks up on us and we stay in the rut. I love that the Freedom card was meant for you in such a meaningful way and thank you so much for your reference to my post❤
Farrah's comment about women sticking together hits home for me. That is one of the things I've loved so much about the Substack community - the sense of community support (not only women .helping women but everyone).
One more thing I forgot to comment on...you said you have to adapt to your new way of living. I think we need to shout this from the rooftops! That sentence really got me because it's often the missing piece. We set ourselves up for change, we work to create the thing and yet we forget that our whole self is going to require an adaptation period to get used to it. Our nervous system, our lifestyle, our whole being.
When I chose to quit drinking I prepared myself for this adaptation which, I believe, helped me achieve success. However, in other seemingly less important endeavors, I often forget about the need to adapt which has an effect on the outcome.