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This is a truly refreshing take on marriage, one you rarely see in the media! I love it!

I agree, to each their own. Marriage or monogamy is not for everyone. However, it IS for some people and the joys and benefits of it are huge. It is fantastic to sit down and read about your appreciation for your husband and I love that you included the picture, gorgeous!

Horrifying and shocking came to mind reading about pediatric gastric bypass surgery. Damn. I can't help but wonder who and how some folks would ever think this is a good plan. It boggles my mind.

Thank you so much for sharing all these juicy articles, I can't wait to dive in. Also, I would be interested in reading more about your thoughts and tips on transition. I think it's a place many of us are in right now.

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I am discovering more and more people in transition now. It seems like it's the season. Thank you for the suggestion on the topic!

Re: the gastric bypass, it's a complicated, layered situation. There is rampant fat bias within the medical community. Then you add in money. You have these huge budgets being allocated toward "educating" doctors about the latest procedures and drugs. Even accepting a very small amount of money, think the cost of a lunch, is enough to create bias. Then there is bias in many of the studies, and most of them aren't followed long enough to see the full picture.

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Kristi, thank you so much for including me in your Monday weekly round-up! It’s just lovely to have connected and to share similar experiences. That’s a really interesting article from the New York Times re marriage v career. I would echo what it says. I know not all marriages work out and not everyone finds a life partner but I would totally agree with you, I could not have done all this transition and identity crises stuff without the support of my husband whose opinion of me never changes! Thank you for sharing this.

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It’s fun to read the topics you bring up with your husband. It’s clear he’s your rock.

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Yes he usually features in most of my pieces. I talk and he listens!!

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I can't imagine being where I am today if I was not grounded by my partner. We've been together 13 years now, which probably seems like the blink of an eye for folks who have been in lifetime relationships, but this one marked a significant transition period in my own life. The rest is history.

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Congrats to you on finding that person.

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Thanks, and to you as well!

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Hi Kristi, Well, I was in a marriage for 60 years and out for three. There are pros and cons to both and as you say "to each her own." I know that I can live, make it, survive, on my own, but I also deeply miss my partner and "soul mate."

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Knowing I could live, make it and survive on my own was more important to me than marriage early on, and it’s so important. When you feel like you need it to make your way in the world, that’s tough and often leads to bad decisions.

I love the gusto with which you’re living your life!

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Hi, That is a great distinction and description.

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