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Madelleine Müller (she/her)'s avatar

I love this and it resonated so well with me. I recently discovered ‘true vulnerability’. I always thought I was open as I’m a good listener and good at sharing AFTER I have analysed everything myself on my own. I realised my armor was doing all the work by my lonesome (as well as a good bout of people pleasing). I realised that this shutting off true vulnerability has cost me intimate relationships and an annoying attraction to emotionally unavailable people. Thank you so much for sharing your experience! Oh, and also I sent you an email with my diet rejection story a while back, perhaps it landed in spam? Am loving your posts!

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John Koeter's avatar

Armor. I call it putting up force fields and did it for the same you did. It is hard taking off the armor or lowering your force fields. It leads to being open to “attack” but also leads to rich relationships which are the most important part of life in my opinion.

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