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Mallary Tenore Tarpley's avatar

Kristi, thank you for this beautiful review. I'm so glad that SLIP resonated with you and that you found it to be an honest and inclusive look at the recovery process. I'm beyond grateful that you took the time to read the book and write this review. I hope your readers will check out the book and that they'll find it helpful.

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Kristi Koeter's avatar

This was a beautiful book. Calling it a memoir doesn't do it justice, because there was so much research and reporting layered within it. I really hope it gets in front of the wider audience that *needs* to read it not just those who have been through it.

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Mallary Tenore Tarpley's avatar

One of my early readers called it "an explanatory" memoir, which I really liked. I thought long and hard about how to make each chapter informative without sacrificing the intimacy and warmth of a memoir. I'm so glad you found the approach effective.

And yes, that's one of my greatest hopes too — that people won't dismiss this as a book that's only relevant to those with lived experience. My hope is that a wide range of readers — medical doctors, educators, parents, and more — will benefit from it.

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Ruth Steggles's avatar

I am looking forward to reading the book. I used to be so defensive when people asked about our daughter's recovery, because I was so desperate to reach an endpoint. These days, I am more relaxed (it is easier, she is well), but I am not sure I believe there is an endpoint for anyone. We are all constantly experiencing life, and based on that experience, we get to change things or not. I am interested to see if the book changes my view.

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Kristi Koeter's avatar

I would love to hear what you think and whether it changes your thoughts about the recovery process. I don't think full recovery is possible if we hold people to the most stringent criteria of never having another disordered eating or body image thought. It just feels so unrealistic given the society we live in. As a former dieter now going on almost three years, I realized awhile back that full recovery wasn't the goal. I still hoped I'd get there one day, but if I made that the goal, I would have viewed having the disordered eating thoughts are a sign of failure. But the real sign of progress is having the thoughts and not let them rule my behavior.

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Ruth Steggles's avatar

I definitely agree that not acting on the thoughts is a win!

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Stephanie's avatar

I just pre-ordered. I rarely ever buy new books, as I wait until they are available used. Needless to say, I'm so excited about this book!

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Kristi Koeter's avatar

Yay! Please let me know what you think of it!

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Joan Breibart's avatar

So many women write about fat acceptance. Maybe try watching a Billion people who are starving and another billion who have very little to eat.

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Dinah's avatar

Yes, that is precisely it! I am 9 years post-recovery, and there have been many ups and downs in that time. Times when the ED thoughts were strong and I had to rely on the tools I learned while in therapy. Times when more treatment was needed. Thanks for sharing your reflections on this book.

Here is my journey if you https://dinahbeingme.substack.com/p/heres-how-i-made-peace-with-my-body

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