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Leslie Senevey's avatar

Welcome to the club. All the best women are here.

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Kristi Koeter's avatar

I wish I could double like this! Totally made my day when I saw it pop up, but for some reason (hmmm 🤔), I'm just now getting back to it.

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Eva Lydon ✨'s avatar

Apparently Vitamin B12 and Magnesium are good for brain health... I started taking Magnesium a few months ago (to aid sleep) and I definitely feel sharper/less forgetfull 👍 But then again that could just be due to sleeping better! 🤣 Either way.. Magnesium might be helpful x

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Kristi Koeter's avatar

Thank you for the suggestion. I knew it was good for sleep, but I didn't know about brain function!

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Jill Lahnstein's avatar

I am definitely post menopausal, but your piece catapulted me right back into that perimenopausal phase of my life—where nothing seems real but also feels terrifying. A symptom I experienced—one that was completely new and brought me intense anxiety—was frequent and urgent urination. It disrupted my sleep and prompted me to change some of my daily routines. And it scared me by making me feel out of control of my body. Luckily that seemed to pass as I settled into true menopause. On another note: Kudos to your husband for “understanding the assignment.”

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Kristi Koeter's avatar

It's so scary when we have these unexplained body changes, but there's also a certain comfort in knowing this, too, is a transition that will pass. And re my husband, I've talked about perimenopause so much the last few months, he was ready for it 😂.

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Jess Mujica's avatar

Oof. Yes girl, yes. You probably know my story as I wrote a guest post about it on Flucking Flourishing.

https://open.substack.com/pub/fluckingflourishing/p/untethered-and-unapologetic-midlife?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=18pm6g

At the moment, I am in the brain fog stage as well, and low motivation.

Currently taking bio-identical progesterone cream at its strongest mg. Next step up is oral P. No estrogen yet for me. I notice my estrogen swings high some months and low estrogen is more common once periods start skipping altogether.

In fact last month my boobs hurt so bad I got back on DIM/CDG, a supplement I stopped taking and within days no breast pain and still no breast pain.

You are right, we have to be our own experts in us and our own advocates.

In good news, my tennis elbow (random peri symptom) just cleared up. Not completely, but enough to be able to write lists again! Lol

Brain fog and couldn't write a list. Not a good combo. Lol

What helps me the most is having a dear friend in the thick of it too, and together we lament and then laugh at the unraveling. What else can we do? 😆

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Kristi Koeter's avatar

Thanks for sharing that link! I take so much comfort in all of the women here who've shared similar stories. We really are a tribe here on Substack.

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Jess Mujica's avatar

Im 45 and I went into peri changes at 40. Please God let this be over with before 50. It's like the longest pregnancy ever!

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Kristi Koeter's avatar

🤞

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Oona Hanson's avatar

So glad you got some relief from other challenges and sorry to hear the brain fog hasn't lifted.

We're almost exactly the same age, I'm definitely struggling with *a lot* of perimenopause symptoms, too (Too complicated to go into here, but HRT isn't an option for me).

Thanks for sharing openly about all of this and for not making it seem like HRT is a miracle cure for all the things.

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Kristi Koeter's avatar

Definitely not a cure for everything and not right for all women. I know there's this sort of extreme faction of midlife women who are pushing hormones as the cure for everything, but there are many women who just can't take them. And it should be a choice, not a requirement.

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Joy V.'s avatar

What I find extremely frustrating is that we're told a menopause test is impossible because of how much hormones fluctuate at any given time. OK, if that's the case, why can't we measure the fluctuations and use that as a marker? (I asked Dr. Jen on her substack and she didn't reply.) Akin to an A1C test for diabetes, versus a glucose spot check.

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Kristi Koeter's avatar

I wonder that too. It's like we need a monitoring system where we see our averages each day and then track them over time. I use Clue to monitor my cycles and they average together they last 6 months of cycles to show the length of cycle, number of days, etc., so it would be a more robust version of that.

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Joy V.'s avatar

Yes, but I need a blood test version. I had my uterus removed (due to adenomyosis/endometriosis) but I have my ovaries. So, I have no period or cramps to clue me, but I still have the hormones. Fun!

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Kristi Koeter's avatar

Oh, that makes sense. We can dream. Maybe 10 years from now ...

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Keris Fox's avatar

This very morning, after waking up anxious after a dream, I realised that I haven’t been waking up anxious *as standard* since starting HRT. Hadn’t even realised.

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